I think it’s interesting psychology. And terrible advice.
I’m long since married, but were a women to bring up exes and ended friendships on a first date, it would feel - at best - like an interrogation. More likely, I’d think her to be someone incapable of having fun, getting to know me, and broken by the internet. I’d like someone to see me for my best at first.
All of the article’s points matter in the long run - how one bonds, how they handle adversity, etc - but going into that on a first date would be awful.
Love these questions! Yes, ask the deep questions up front when you’ve got little invested in the connection, before you start fantasizing about your beautiful future together.
I found this article really interesting and thought-provoking. I would like to understand your thought process behind question 1 better - how do their answers help you discern which category they align with?
Ask the same question again after 14 days. What kind of question doesn't matter. The answer must be the same, otherwise he is a lier! If he passes this test, ask him about his finances. If he opens up he passes, otherwise he isn't your man. And remember: you will regognise the truth and you will doubt a lie.
Seems like some of the male commenters didn’t read the whole article or didn’t read it carefully. The author makes clear toward the end that you shouldn’t ask all of these questions at once. And, I agree that none of them should be asked on a first date unless it comes up very organically.
Yikes. This would feel like an interview at best and an interrogation at worst. I would walk away from someone just for asking these on date 1. Sorry, I think this is terrible advice. It just would add to the bleak landscape of modern dating, and that is bleak enough.
Took about 5 seconds to realise this is mostly AI slop.
I think it’s interesting psychology. And terrible advice.
I’m long since married, but were a women to bring up exes and ended friendships on a first date, it would feel - at best - like an interrogation. More likely, I’d think her to be someone incapable of having fun, getting to know me, and broken by the internet. I’d like someone to see me for my best at first.
All of the article’s points matter in the long run - how one bonds, how they handle adversity, etc - but going into that on a first date would be awful.
Love these questions! Yes, ask the deep questions up front when you’ve got little invested in the connection, before you start fantasizing about your beautiful future together.
I found this article really interesting and thought-provoking. I would like to understand your thought process behind question 1 better - how do their answers help you discern which category they align with?
Feels like it’s not written by a human. Too many words yet the meaning is not dense
Ask the same question again after 14 days. What kind of question doesn't matter. The answer must be the same, otherwise he is a lier! If he passes this test, ask him about his finances. If he opens up he passes, otherwise he isn't your man. And remember: you will regognise the truth and you will doubt a lie.
Seems like some of the male commenters didn’t read the whole article or didn’t read it carefully. The author makes clear toward the end that you shouldn’t ask all of these questions at once. And, I agree that none of them should be asked on a first date unless it comes up very organically.
Yikes. This would feel like an interview at best and an interrogation at worst. I would walk away from someone just for asking these on date 1. Sorry, I think this is terrible advice. It just would add to the bleak landscape of modern dating, and that is bleak enough.
An article about human relationships read by AI just doesn't cut it. What a shame!
This is a really great post! Definitely worth referencing with my single female patients. Perfect questions with the explanation for each.
It’s terrible advice for a first date.