The neuroscience of sabotaging safe relationships & what to do about it. (12 min read)
If your system keeps pulling you toward intensity and away from stability, that’s not confusion.
It’s an unresolved imprint.
And it doesn’t change by trying to handle it better in the moment.
It changes when the imprint itself resolves.
Agreed! IFS would call these "Exiles," and they drag you back into similar situations over and over, trying to get a do-over from someone outside of you, when what they need is something you can provide it internally!
Excellent work.
Thanks, Genny!
This is really good stuff. Thank you so much.
I apprecaite it!
This was great and it found me at the right time, as I’ve found someone stable that’s triggering everything you wrote about. Thank you!
If your system keeps pulling you toward intensity and away from stability, that’s not confusion.
It’s an unresolved imprint.
And it doesn’t change by trying to handle it better in the moment.
It changes when the imprint itself resolves.
Agreed! IFS would call these "Exiles," and they drag you back into similar situations over and over, trying to get a do-over from someone outside of you, when what they need is something you can provide it internally!
Excellent work.
Thanks, Genny!
This is really good stuff. Thank you so much.
I apprecaite it!
This was great and it found me at the right time, as I’ve found someone stable that’s triggering everything you wrote about. Thank you!