The nervous system reframe in here is spot-on, esp. the bit about how "capacity, not chemistry, determines who stays." I've been on both sides of this in various relationships and I gotta say, it took me awhile to realize that my disappearing acts weren't strategic decisions but physiological panic dressed up as clarity. Framing it as a shutdown respons instead of indifference actually helps ppl understand what's happening without letting anyone off the hook for the impact.
The nervous system reframe in here is spot-on, esp. the bit about how "capacity, not chemistry, determines who stays." I've been on both sides of this in various relationships and I gotta say, it took me awhile to realize that my disappearing acts weren't strategic decisions but physiological panic dressed up as clarity. Framing it as a shutdown respons instead of indifference actually helps ppl understand what's happening without letting anyone off the hook for the impact.